How well you get on with your children, now they have children of their own?
When it comes to family conflict, many think straight away to the mother-in-law jokes but new research shows it is more likely that couples argue more with their own parents. But there is one way to fix that problem. The research also shows that having kids will change everything.
That is when the mother-in-law jokes do apply. After having kids, the researchers found, is when each part of the couple will most likely to fall out with their in-laws than their own family.
Previous studies have already revealed having children can strengthen the bond between in-laws. With the introduction of a little one they become more like biological family, which can lead to them being much more involved in the family. And who wouldn’t want to spend as much time as possible with the grandkids?
But it does come at a cost for some. Being a regular carer for your grandchildren, for example, might help a couple financially but it might not help your relationship.
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Researcher Mirkka Danielsbacka says daughters-in-law were more likely to report conflicts when their mother-in-law provided more grandchild care.
“This indicates that the increase in conflicts between in-laws are related to grandchild care,” Mirkka Danielsbacka said.
What has been your experience, both when you had children, and now as a grandparent?