While it can be nice to have adult children living at home, a mother has become frustrated after her two children blatantly refuse to move out of home or contribute rent money.
Taking to internet forum Mumsnet, a British woman only known by her screen name Diamondzzz explained that she has always brought up her 20-year-old son and 24-year-old daughter on her own and always put them first.
Recently, she moved into a smaller house so she could pay off her mortgage. While each child has their own bedroom in the main house, she’s been living in a caravan in the backyard. She said she wanted less stress and wanted to give her children somewhere to live.
All she asked for was £25 (AU$44, US$32) each week, equal to just a quarter of all bills while she payed half. If that wasn’t enough, the son’s girlfriend had moved in earlier this year, but hasn’t been paying or contributing any rent.
The woman said if she was living alone, the bills would be cheaper because she wouldn’t be using as much electricity and water and thought her request to get her kids to contribute was reasonable. Sadly, her son and his girlfriend haven’t been able to hold down regular jobs and always say they don’t have the money for rent. Alarmingly, the mother noticed the pair always had money when it came to takeaway meals or trips out.
She also said her daughter was originally happy to pay rent, but stopped when her brother wasn’t contributing. To make matters worse, the house has been left untidy, meaning the mother now spends her evenings after work cleaning up after everyone else.
“There always seems to be arguments because my son and daughter don’t want each other living here,” she said. “It’s got to the point where I have told them that in January I want them all to leave.”
The news hasn’t gone down well, with the daughter becoming moody towards her mother and even calling her selfish.
“She thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to live with your parents indefinitely,” she continued. “My son is cocky about it and says I won’t throw them out in January and that if I do, he will never speak to me again. He thinks that I am being totally unreasonable to expect a penny from them and tells me to get a full-time job if I’m worried about paying the bills.”
The woman explained she left home at 17 and most people her age did. She also said she didn’t think it was unreasonable for her adult kids to provide for themselves or contribute to rent.
Others were quick to offer their advice.
One person wrote: “I think it’s absolutely fine to live with your parents as long as you pay your way, take on a fair share of chores and don’t act like a moody teen when you’re in your 20s and it’s a mutual choice.”
Another said: “You’re living in a caravan while they live it up in your house and then sometimes don’t pay. They’re taking you for a mug.”
A third comment read: “Regardless of their income I would sit them down and explain you are all adults, these are the outgoings and these will be split between the four of you in the house. I’d also put son and girlfriend in caravan immediately!”