No matter how much you love your parents and are thankful for their care and support over the years, sometimes they can really get on your nerves. Whether it’s an annoying comment or habit that drives you up the wall, it’s common to have a bit of conflict in the relationship over the years, especially since for many elderly parents, stubbiness only seems to increase with age.
While disputes are usually settled after a short cooling off period, one sixty-plus is in utter despair after lashing out and swearing at her mother during a fiery discussion. Pouring her heart out on website Reddit, the woman explained how she is experiencing great mental stress following the spat that led her to say f*** you to her mum.
It all began when the Baby Boomer and her mother were thrust into a debate over health matters after the 62-year-old received a letter from her doctor informing her she was suffering from osteoporosis.
“Mom asked what was in [the] letter. I told her. She went on to say ‘that is a scam… I have osteoporosis but my bone density is fine’,” the woman said. “She kept saying nothing was wrong with me and it is a scam.”
As tempers started to grow the upset daughter said she cussed at her mother in the midst of the heated exchange, a decision she now regrets. “She became angry that I might think I have something wrong,” she wrote. “When she turned her back I mouth ‘f&6k you’. My dad was standing by and read my lips.”
From a young age people are told to respect their elders, most especially their own parents and it seems for many that still rings true as they age as the woman struggles to move on from the stressful situation.
“At my age who would think you are still in conflict with your parents? I have an internal belief you never ever disrespect your parents. So doing so caused me great mental stress,” she explained.
Showing their support, the majority of forum users backed the concerned woman and said she had every right to cuss at her mother, explaining that angry outbursts were normal in any parent/child relationships.
“People don’t get the right to trivialize you and belittle you, no one. Not even your mother. You’re old enough to be able to stand up and have a respectfully dissenting opinion and view,” one person wrote.
While another said: “Maybe, just move on to the next day and next time she pisses you off say ‘I love ya mom, but please do f*** off with that nonsense’ and smile and then fight about something else. Through all of that, remain friends. Like normal people that go through this type of fight when they are 16 years old.”