I’m old fashioned and I think it’s important to be this way

I’ve been considered old-fashioned by both my children and my friends for many years but I have to say, I

I’ve been considered old-fashioned by both my children and my friends for many years but I have to say, I would much prefer to be this way. I don’t really consider myself old-fashioned but I think there’s a certain standard that should be upheld.

I come from a working class family however my mother always taught me it was important to present yourself as upper class in everything you do. To this day I still set the table before I eat and I would never be seen dead wearing tracksuit pants or thongs.

My daughter often tells me my outdated way of thinking needs to be changed. I guess she says this because she has a number of tattoos. Where I’m from, tattoos are a sign you’ve either been to prison, or you’re lower class. She has one on her wrist I’m dying for her to get lasered off but unfortunately despite my best efforts, she refuses. I think tattoos are so tacky and unflattering, especially on women.

Another thing I like to make sure I do is avoid abbreviations and speak eloquently as much as possible. I feel the English language has suffered greatly in the last century and lazy Australians are somewhat to blame. I can’t stand hearing a “bogan” speaking, as I was brought up to enunciate all my words.

I also believe women should always wear a soft perfume, brush their hair before they go out anywhere (even to the shops) and I could never go outside without first running a lint roller over my clothing. My mum was always as neat as a pin and taught me to have self respect and self confidence. How can you have those things when you don’t look after your appearance?

I think our society could benefit from harking back to the days when men were chivalrous and women were very well dressed and polite. The filthy things that come out of women (and men’s) mouths nowadays is disturbing. We had a much more peaceful way of life in the 60s and 70s, which I miss. I of course think there’s been developments in equality and so forth, which I fully support, but when life was simple and without technology and rudeness and disrespect, we all had a good time.

I am going to continue my quest (as my daughter calls it!) to be as old fashioned as I want. I’d like to think there’s other over 60s out there who hold the same values as me and can appreciate coming from good working class stock.

Tell us, are you old fashioned? Or have you adopted the more modern way of life?

  1. Sue Salmon  

    Oh I so agree, I always say I have “standards”. Wish more people did too.

    • Wiso  

      So agree ladies !! Why must high standards and moral values go ‘out of fashion’ just to be seen to be keeping up with the times.

      From what I observe daily, it would seem that keeping up with the time and being in fashion is not for the better. Not all change is good and that is evident in the ‘standards’ of today.

      Although some might disagree, it is possible to be relaxed and have lots of fun while maintaining our old-fashioned standards !!

  2. No I don’t agree I think that you sound old not old fashioned. Not a lot of joy in your life just a lot of tut tutting.

  3. I totally agree with this writer. I believe it is possible to present ones self as ‘smart’ without having to spend huge amounts of money. I often buy clothes in charity shops and my friends have no idea, but comment on my clothes.
    I also lament the use of language these days, have you noticed some words are dissappearing. An example of this is ‘finished’, people say ‘done’, or ‘children ‘, now are baby goats.
    Thank you for the article.

  4. I don’t think we realize just how important standards are in society. Without them anything goes and the human race will decline lto the point of anything being acceptable.

    Standards are cerainly different for each generation (as one would expect), but as time marches on, and with so many things at our disposal, I for one would expect to see improvement not decline. What has gone wrong?

    Oh that’s right our standards have slipped.

  5. IMHO standards are a reflection of the respect that one has for ones self and for those with whom you may be spending time. Being neat and tidy, speaking clearly, keeping an open, charitable mind are all representations of a person who cares.

  6. Patricia Taylor  

    Gosh – I am wearing track pants, wear jandals, have a tattoo and have multiple piercings in my ears. I do not like lazy speech but get a life, don’t take life so seriously, relax and have some fun. I think if you get to know some of the people you don’t ‘approve’ of you will find the majority of them are generous, loving, loyal, hard working people who contribute hugely to the well being of their families and the communities they live in.

  7. Kathy T  

    Whilst I agree with some of your comments about respect for ones self and others. I feel very sad for you, you say you are from good working class stock, then why did your mother want you to present as upper class? Seems to me working class people can be just as well mannered, neat, clean and tidy without trying to act as if they are “upper class”. Money does not buy class that may be the lesson your mother missed teaching you. Good luck, although I do hope you learn that whoever it is you are trying to impress probably isn’t taking any notice.

    • Wiso  

      Class has nothing to do with money. Class is the standard one lives to. Of course you can be well mannered, neat, clean and tidy but still have no ‘class’ . Class is the standard to which you present yourself, not how much money you have or what side of the tracks you come from. And I learnt that from my dirt poor working class mother !! By learning how to have class certainly allowed me to achieve things that I may not have been able to otherwise. Respect being one of them.

  8. John  

    Where I go determines my mode of dress – for most of the time I live in shorts, t shirts or polos, joggers or thongs in summer – unless I am at home where it is bare feet and a pair of shorts, winter is track pants, sweaters and joggers or uggs at home. If I am forced to go to a shopping centre then these are still appropriate forms of apparel. The bag of fruit gets an airing for matches and dispatches as well as other formal occasions such as cruise dinners and then there is smart casual ( can be jeans and sports coat, or sports trousers and coat but not ties) for a night at the theatre or dinner.

  9. I would love it if my hubby wore a shirt when we go out but he lives in Tee shirts. I,love a man in a nice shirt but my man is a rebel without a cause . After 45 years he has gotten worse with this. He even wears tshirts to weddings and funerals.

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