How to spend Christmas Day alone, without feeling lonely…

To start, let’s acknowledge something important. Spending Christmas Day alone can be challenging and painful, although there are ways to

To start, let’s acknowledge something important. Spending Christmas Day alone can be challenging and painful, although there are ways to ease feelings of isolation.

For those of us who have lost loved ones, don’t have family nearby or just don’t have many people in our lives, Christmas can be a lonely time. This is especially true when friends retreat into their own circles, and there are constant reminders of Christmas togetherness in the media.

So how can we spend Christmas alone, without feeling lonely? Here are some ideas that we hope will brighten your December:

1. Invite new people around for a Christmas meal. Starts At Sixty recently brought you the story of Kristina Rivers, a Sydney woman who is opening her doors to strangers this Christmas. You might not feel comfortable inviting strangers into your home, but you might know a neighbour or community member who is also alone for Christmas. Inviting them around for a meal will help spread festive cheer.

2. If spending Christmas Day with new people doesn’t sound appealing, at least plan a special meal for yourself. You might splash-out on some Christmas turkey for one, or you might book yourself in for lunch at the local RSL. Either way, a Christmas meal will keep you in high spirits.

3. Decorate your house with Christmas decorations. You might be the only person to appreciate these decorations come Christmas Day, but you deserve to feel festive just as much as the next person. Crafting homemade Christmas decorations is another great way to keep yourself occupied.

4. Take a road trip to a place you’ve never visited. Getting away from home on Christmas Day, and exploring a new destination, will help curb feelings of isolation. If you’re gaining a new experience, then you won’t feel that Christmas Day has been a loss.

5. Give yourself a Christmas makeover. Take the time to paint your nails, pluck your eyebrows or have a bubble-bath. Looking your best will help you feel cheerier, especially if you’re planning on meeting new people come Christmas Day.

6. Plant a Christmas garden. Doing something productive on Christmas Day will help keep your mind and body busy. Grevilias, lavender and banksia are all lovely summer growers.

7. Give time, not things. The spirit of gift-giving is alive and well during Christmas, but for people without friends or family nearby, there might not be anyone to shop for. Instead, try donating your time on Christmas Day. Volunteer at a women’s shelter, or help pack Christmas hampers for the needy. There are many local organisations you can contact in advance, to volunteer your time and efforts come Christmas Day.

8. If you have a pet, buy them a Christmas gift or cook them a special treat. Treat your furry companion just like family, and celebrate Christmas Day together.

9. Go to church. If you’re religious, spending Christmas Day at mass can be a meaningful way to mark the occasion. Sing carols, stay and mingle with the congregation afterwards. Praying can also help ease feelings of loneliness or loss at Christmas time.

10. Let your creative energies flow. Write a poem, paint a canvass, play music or read a novel. A creative pursuit will help you achieve something fun come Christmas Day, and will lift your spirits.

How are you planning to spend Christmas Day? Feel free to liaise with each other in the comments below, should you wish to plan a Christmas meal with new people from the Starts At Sixty community.

  1. More suggestions. It’s one day ,so take a deep breathe , have a nice leisurely breakfast ,go for a walk , put some music on ,🎼🎼🎼
    be kind to your self ,otherwise be mega busy and before you know it it’s the 26th . 🌲🌲🌲enjoy whatever you do 😎😎

  2. Jeannette  

    Find a church that provides meals on Christmas day – Exodus Foundation, – Salvation Army , go out and serve these people, always look to people worse off than yourself as their is many. Take the focus off yourself and put it onto others – and you will receive Joy . Christmas is all about Jesus being born not about all the other hype. So have a great day. I have no family in this country I belong to a church who friends have invited me – but I have decided to spend it alone and just enjoy the day for what it is – stock up on good food chocolates and dvd’s / Whooooo hoo . Can’t wait – life is what we choose to make it. 🙂

  3. It’s just another day for me so I treat it as such. I have several terabits of recorded programs I can watch should I get bored.

    • I’m the same as you Bruce, at my age it is just another day,this is the second year I’ve been by my self and it doesn’t worry son spends the day with his daughter and ex-wife and my daughter spends with in-laws,,,ah well ….Merry Christmas to all

  4. I don’t feel lonely as I like my company and can enjoy vicariously by seeing the joy and excitement of neighbourhood children. Yes I am alone at Christmas by choice and some circumstances but I’m not lonely…..

  5. Take your fur baby for an early morning xmas beach walk. Always lots of like minded people you can pass the time with on the way 😊

  6. Susan Campbell  

    Had breakfast with my daughter and family, cooking a roast lamb, am alone by choice, every other year have taken a friend to lunch but this year I wanted a restful day

  7. Stephen  

    I am alone today, but as I am usually alone it is no big deal. It is as usual quiet and peaceful, thundery showers are watering the garden for me and I have spent the day between Netflix, Stan, some TV and F/B.
    I presently have Legionnaires Disease which highly limits any long reaching activity, so me going somewhere or having people in is not reasonable.
    So yes I am alone, but not lonely and have no need to do “stuff” to make me feel better, because I am not sad to begin with, just settled with pleasant company.

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