I’ve been meditating for many years but there are still days when I feel like it’s something I need to tick of the to do list. On some days particularly when I’m in the middle of a big project, it can feel hard to put even ten minutes aside for meditation practice. The driven voice in my head tries to convince me that this practice of pausing and connecting with presence, is a waste of time. It’s a compelling voice particularly on days when it feels like there are so many urgent things to do. But it’s especially on those days, when I manage to recognise those sabotaging thoughts for what they are, that I find so much benefit from meditating.
When I sit to meditate on these days, I immediately notice the tightness in my chest and throat and the underlying agitation of my stress. I notice my mind is spewing out to do lists in a way that make it nearly impossible to resist getting up and just doing it all. Then I see what is happening. Ah, agitation is here. It’s through making room for meditation, that I get to more consciously connect with myself and my state of being and realise that my sense of urgency and drivenness is actually being fuelled from a physical state of tension and stress. By the end of my meditation session, I feel the chest open up, the breath become more unimpeded, my belly soften, and my whole being settle back into a feeling of calm presence. I’m grateful that I have this practice in my life and that it has taught me how to discern between thoughts that are worth listening to versus thoughts that are psychic garbage which need to be discarded.
The gift of meditation is that it has taught me how to relate to my thoughts in a completely revolutionary way. I can’t believe this education isn’t mandatory from primary school. I wonder how my life may have been different with this discerning lens on my inner experience. Through the practice of meditation I have come to realise and understand that thoughts can be likened to having a radio on in the background of your mind, and sometimes the channels that you’re tuned into are full of rubbish. The difference is that when you’re listening to a radio if there’s a channel you don’t like, you can easily fix it by changing the station. However, for many of us, when it comes to our thought stream, we sit there tuned in and immersed in a toxic running commentary without changing the station.
Until I learned the practice of mindfulness meditation I was a prisoner of my own thoughts. When you believe that all the thoughts you have are the truth of the matter, your possibilities can be very limited by limiting beliefs and self-stories. If we take all our thoughts as authorities on the matter, we stay trapped in pre-existing beliefs that could be obstructing our full potential.
As Gandhi stated:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny”.
So how do you know which thoughts are valuable and which thoughts are to be disregarded. It’s usually the negative thoughts that have a particular power to affect our destiny. So next time you are having a thought which in some way is self critical, judgemental, worried or stressed, take a mindful moment, pause, and ask yourself if this thought is supporting you to be the person you want to be, and live in the way you want to live. Recognise what emotion is below the thought that might be driving that type of thinking. Is there fear, overwhelm, stress, hurt, anxiety, shame or anger? By getting to the root of the emotion behind the thought you can then make wiser decisions about how to respond to what is triggering that emotion, rather than stay captive to unproductive thought loops.
Four steps to finding greater emotional freedom through mindfulness
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