A man shares his honest account of what it’s like to live with Alzheimer’s 3



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Alan Beamer is just like any other man.

He loves his family, his friends, and his community.

But recently, everything changed for Alan. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and the effect it has had on his life stretches much further than just his mind.

Alan’s wife made a short video about him where she asked him questions about how he was feeling about his diagnosis.

In the video, Alan is seen with tears streaming down his face as he talks about how hard it has been to come to terms with the disease.

He says he feels like he has lost much more than his mind; he feels as though his friends treat him differently now and that has made it all so much harder to deal with.

Alan’s wife, who affectionately calls him Beam, can be heard asking him questions from behind the camera.

“What we would like you to know is what Alan feels… So that’s where we’re going to go,” she begins.

“Beam, you have Alzheimer’s. What do you want people to know about Alzheimer’s?”

An emotional Alan wipes the tears from his face as he answers.

“It’s mean, mean, one of the meanest things I’ve ever seen in my life,” he said.

Alan says he thinks his friends are avoiding him because they don’t know how to act around him.

“I’m the same old person and I wish my friends could just come up and talk to me just like they did before.

“And you know, play around and joke around.”

He says he wants people to know that he’s having a hard time dealing with it too, and that he doesn’t always know how to handle it either.

Alan’s wife says she thinks it’s important for people to know she and Alan often feel the same way his friends do: uncomfortable and unsure about how to talk about it.

“I think one of the biggest things we want them to know is that we’re not comfortable with it either, but we live it every day. We can’t get away from it.”

The video has been viewed over a million times and has touched thousands of people who were moved by Alan’s honesty.

Those who have been through similar situations with Alzheimer’s and a range of other diseases say they know just how he feels and that they hope this video will help their own friends and family understand what they are going through.

Other’ who have watched their own husbands and wives or parents navigate their way through a serious illness say the video really hit home with them.

It’s hoped that Alan’s story will help people to understand that those who are sick or diagnosed with a disease are still the same on the inside and just want to be treated the same way by their friends and family.

Take a look at Alan’s story below and tell us how it makes you feel.

Alzheimer’s has changed a lot of things about his life, but Beamer is still the same guy inside — and that’s all he wants his friends to remember. (via INSIDER)

Posted by Upworthy Video on Monday, March 28, 2016

Can you relate to what Alan is saying? Have you or anyone you know been in a similar situation?

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  1. It is devastating for the person with the disease and for their partner and families. I often wonder how much my friend understands because she cannot verbalise her thoughts. At times she seems to be understanding a lot at other times we need to explain things many times

  2. It’s a brave decision for someone to talk about their diagnosis with Alzheimer’s.

    I think the important thing, as Alan says, is that he’s still the same person and he just wants people to behave towards him as they always have. This disease is hard enough to deal with, without the person also feeling alienated from their friends.

  3. This insidious disease is what Alan says “mean”. No discrimating here. But what is not said is that it is a very slow disease and takes years and years to really show itself. Notice the little things, these little tiny changes appear and then if you notice them jump on them. There are things out there that can help. Get it before it gets you. There is no cure that I know of. I wish you the best Alan. Exercise your body and mind. It does help oh and get a little notebook it is invaluable. Please look after yourself. Regards j.

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