A devastated mother has revealed her heartbreak after being cut off by her adult children, claiming all her own kids and grandchildren have turned against her, leaving her feeling suicidal.
The woman admitted her personality could be partly to blame, explaining she is a very straightforward person who never bites her tongue. However, she said she’s always been that way and her family problems originally began with her step-daughter, while her two sons and their partners have also become estranged from her.
“Apparently they don’t like that I say how I feel, they think I should not,” she wrote on Internet forum Gransnet. “My husband of 30 years and I are beside ourselves with sadness that they can be so cruel.”
The dispute has meant the woman hasn’t seen her six grandchildren in quite some time. To make matters worse, she constantly receives abusive text messages from her step-daughter.
“She thinks she has the answer to everything in life,” she vented. “She even once told me I was a failure as a mother.”
For help and guidance, the woman and her husband sought help from a counsellor, who she said put a lot of things into perspective. The counsellor told them to focus on their grandchildren, rather than their children. The woman explained that they have an 18-month-old grandson they’ve never seen because she isn’t welcome.
“We are so sad and depressed by our children’s attitude,” she added. “We have no family gatherings anymore, I have thoughts of just leaving this planet all together [sic].”
The woman then asked others for their advice, although many were quick to point the blame at the woman and her attitude.
One comment read: “You can’t fix a problem by doing the same thing that caused it and if you treat your GC [grandchildren] the same as you did your children then you will have exactly the same relationship with them as well.”
Another person said: “Why should your children tolerate your plain speaking when you will not tolerate theirs? They are doing to you what you are doing to them. Sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.”
A third added: “Apologise to them all without delay if you don’t want to be totally on your own for the rest of your days.”
If you’re depressed or need someone to talk to, there are many 24/7 support lines available, including Lifeline on 13 11 14, the Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467, MensLineAustralia on 1300 789 978 and Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636.