Choosing a baby’s name has got got to be one of the most difficult decisions in any parent’s life. It’s hard enough to agree on a name both mum and dad like and in some cases the child is born and the chosen name just doesn’t suit.
Anxiety, worry, confusion, these are all emotions felt by new parents when their bundle of joy is born. But what do you do if you pick a name and then down the track no longer like it?
That is exactly the case for one concerned mother who is filled with regret after not settling on the name she had loved all along. And the reason why she didn’t opt for the particular name? Because other people she knew had chosen it.
Taking to online forum Mumsnet the woman said she wants to change her daughter’s name, 11 months after she was born, but doesn’t want to cause any trouble down the track.
“Had a very difficult time choosing DD’s [dear daughter’s] name which is Madelyn. Eventually gave up and let husband choose and we registered it,” she explained. “Never was 100 per cent sure it was the right name.”
Beginning to regret not picking her initial choice, Hannah, the mum said she is feeling very emotional and doesn’t know what to do.
“I know it sounds horrible but I only had one name I loved and I felt I couldn’t use it because it was our neighbour’s DD’s name, a coworker’s name and it is DH’s [dear husband’s] cousin’s name,” she wrote.
“Been in tears a lot about this, been thinking about it a lot. It was the only name that we both really liked and agreed on. I think it is a result of overthinking this day in and day out and agonising about it, but now I am not even sure if Hannah is right for her now.”
It happens quite often that mum or dad are torn between whether or not to choose a name that a friend, family member or aqaintance has. But should you really not go with a name you love just because someone you know also has it?
It’s a decision that has tourmented the poor mother as she reaches out to fellow forum users for advice, adding: “DH says he doesn’t care, likes both names, just wants me happy”.
The majority were on board with changing the name, saying it won’t have any impact on the child as she is so young.
“DD won’t give a monkeys. No harm in changing your mind, just get on with it now. Make sure no one is buying/making you personalised presents,” one person said.
While another suggested: “I love the name Hannah. Could you not add it to her name i.e. Madelyn Hannah surname and then you can grow into it easier?”
And a third added: “Change it. I wish I’d changed my eldest son’s name but I thought it would grow on me. It didn’t”.