Finding out about unexpected siblings or children later in life can be a challenging situation for all involved as tensions grow and arguments break out.
For one man, it is becoming somewhat of a struggle as he works to keep his family together after discovering his father has another son.
Writing to The Scottish Sun‘s advice column Dear Deidre, the 38-year-old said both himself and his dad are trying to come to terms with the shock announcement that has rattled the family.
“My dad just found out he has another son and is in turmoil,” he explained. “I feel I am on a crazy merry-go-round and can’t jump off.”
According to the man, the news of his 40-year-old half-brother, only broke around a month ago with his mum in particular taking the announcement quite badly.
“My mum is upset as he was born the year they got married,” he claimed. “Dad must have been with the mother shortly before or early in their relationship.
“Dad wants to meet him and get it over with, but he is not coping.”
The man continued by saying how his dad is suffering from a heart condition and he is worried about his health. As an added stress the son explained that no one else in the family knows about his father’s other child and that his dad would not cope with it coming out.
“He is obsessed with what his son will think of him and what answer to give if he asks whether he’s told the rest of the family,” he wrote to the publication.
“I feel angry with his long-lost son, though I know it’s not his fault, and angry with the mother for not telling my dad at the time. It is like we are living in a soap opera.”
“Deidre” was quick to respond, acknowledging the stressful situation and explaining that his father probably feels guilty that his other son missed out on so much.
“Can you find it in your heart to tell your dad you will welcome getting to know your half-brother?” the columnist suggested. “That will relieve some of the tension all round.
“And you will probably find it fascinating to meet him, once you can understand that he isn’t trying to disrupt your family but settle some burning questions for himself.”