Columnist slams society’s ‘so what’ attitude towards death of grandparents

A young woman has described the sadness of losing her grandad. Source: Getty

A heartbroken columnist has shared her pain after losing her granddad, admitting she is struggling to come to terms with the loss and is constantly “one step away from a breakdown”.

Megan Ward opened up about her heart-wrenching grief, just six weeks after saying goodbye to her beloved grandparent, in an article for the Metro newspaper, claiming she’s finding the grieving process incredibly tough.

Speaking about the close relationship she shared with her granddad, Megan described the loss as an “isolating tragedy” that is still impacting her six weeks on.

However, the columnist said despite it being such a terrible situation it has seemed as if no one really cares with a severe and surprising lack of sympathy for her loss.

“In one of the best books I read last year, Not Working by Lisa Owens, a character described a grandparent dying as akin to an engagement: life-changing and all-consuming when it happens to you, but when it happens to someone else it’s hard to give a sh*t,” Megan wrote.

She added: “When I tell people my grandad died, often people say nothing and change the subject. There’s an atmosphere of ‘so what? That happens to everyone’.”

The granddaughter questioned why losing a grandparent isn’t regarded on the same scale as losing a parent or sibling and said for her it has been absolutely devastating.

She claimed co-workers can’t understand the “depth of the grief” and friends don’t “truly understand”, making her feel quite alone during the difficult time.

“For those of us experiencing this loss, it’s made all the more isolating by the fact that in your twenties you are apart from those who feel it as hard as you do,” Megan explained.

“Instead of living with family, you most likely live with friends, roommates, or a partner. They may mean the best, but there is a degree of separation to the tragedy, which means there’s only so much they can do to alleviate grief.”

The devastated granddaughter went on to say while work keeps her mind busy, it’s hard to keep smiling throughout the day when the pain is still so strong. To makes things worse Megan said little things have set her off, meaning she could break down in tears by simply seeing a sign or going into a shopping centre.

“I’m scared and it’s okay if you are too,” she explained. “The death of a grandparent should be seen for the tragedy it is.’

Megan added: “If you’re in the same boat, please know you aren’t alone. I’m always one step away from a breakdown.”

Can you relate to the granddaughter’s pain? How old were you when your grandparents died? Did you have a close relationship with them?

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